Wouldn’t it be wonderful if as children we were given an education on emotional intelligence, self awareness and the skills to take care of ourselves?
Instead many of us are thrust into life and expected to ‘just get on with it’ and to navigate life's many challenges without much guidance. Conformity and blending in, or strength of character and wearing a brave face become the obvious options available to us for survival.
For those of us who are highly sensitive, we can sometimes find ourselves struggling, being misunderstood, labelled as anxious, shy, sometimes even being told that we are anti-social. We can come to feel alone and alienated as a consequence.
Perhaps we are able to put forward a brave or friendly face, but inside we are caught in difficult feelings that we may be being judged and with questions as to whether we are acceptable for who we really are.
What can be understood as a gift of sensitivity can become a burden that we carry. We can feel that we are stuck with an impossible blockage to our freedom to be who we feel we could be if only we weren’t anxious or shy. In this way we become caught in further self criticism and the idea that we need to change ourselves.
For some of us these feelings of sensitivity can lead to an overwhelming experience of isolation, feeling different or alone and in turn this may escalate into any of the anxiety disorders, as a means of coping.
What if I were to tell you that you are and have been absolutely acceptable and fine just as you are?
Perhaps we never had it explained to us how important it is to listen to ourselves carefully, to talk to ourselves kindly and how to manage our nervous system so that we can stay present. Its not too late to change!
There is a path available to each of us, where we can discover the basic goodness of our own nature and learn to carry ourselves in such a way that we find inner stability and can open to life in a balanced and safe way.
This is the path that is open to you and the path that I have walked myself. I know just how difficult anxiety can be and this is my motivation for offering coaching and counselling to others.
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